Sunday, April 6, 2008


Okay okay so that last one was a depressing post. Upon thinking about it overnight, I would like to retro-conclude it with this:
...and that is why it is not a good idea to have delusions about marriage as a final destination, as the "happily ever after," because without either of us putting the effort in, it very well could end up like I described. I can see it working out too though. It is about learning to balance when to build forts and when to get things done, just like it is when you're NOT married. As other factors change (outside or within the relationship), it will be necessary to reevaluate and possibly shift that balance to maintain a healthy tension between these two distinct people trying to live as a part of each others lives.

And I imagine that to be immensely rewarding.


Beth said...

Well, I'm glad you followed up with that comment. It makes for a much more complete picture of life, one that more accurately reflects you as a person.

Katya said...

I don't think that marriage is the story of one relationship any more than science is the story of solving one problem. Every time you think you've got something figured out, it just spawns a dozen new questions and areas of interest and exploration, both in science and in a good relationship. Don't worry, love, there will always be room for new forts and pillow fights and deep thoughts and makeout sessions.

The Dancing Newt said...

Thanks you two. You're always good at putting it into perspective!