Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Alice

So I just re-watched the new Alice in Wonderland and these words jumped out at me.  The White Queen speaks them to Alice as she's looking out at the faces of all the friends she has made along the way, deciding if she is up to the challenge of fighting the jabberwocky.
You cannot live your life to please others.  The choice must be yours, because when you step out to face that creature, you will step out alone.  
The beginning sounds a little cliche... but then that last part especially hit me pretty hard. While we can and often do have the support of loved ones - friends, mentors, family members - we ultimately battle our demons ourselves, by ourselves.

It is hard sometimes to know what you want.  It's hard to know what is your own and what you've merely absorbed from those around you.  But sometimes you need to know how to distinguish.

Maybe "that creature," the jabberwocky, can be a lot of things.  But it is certainly a thing we are afraid of.   I remember something a woman said at a presentation/seminar to other women about having a dream and working to reach it: if you feel scared, or like it's impossible, you're probably getting close.  And somehow, that same feeling seems to be the key to knowing what you want.  Pushing through the fear, pushing through despite the fear is what makes you strong.  It is how you know. 



You will step out alone. 

5 comments:

Beth said...

Kbar, this resonates with what I've been thinking about recently so strongly. <3

Newt said...

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Stella said...

It's so funny to read this today because I've been trying to make a venture into allowing other people to HELP me face those demons that I always thought I had to face alone. I just posted about it with a small video. Turns out, it might be more possible than I thought :) But this is just the theory of my afternoon!

ju said...

"It is hard sometimes to know what you want. It's hard to know what is your own and what you've merely absorbed from those around you. But sometimes you need to know how to distinguish."

me, not me? ;-) so what is it you want, pup?

Cinderella said...

I love that movie. I get something new from it each time I watch it.